It’s resolutions time again.

shutterstock_62795851What were last years resolutions and what will this years be?

Set aside the “new me champion talk” and really think about what’s going to be important to you for 2014.

Let’s make 2014s resolutions really mean something. Instead of saying I want to be buffer, let’s say I want to be healthier, instead of saying I want to get a boyfriend, let’s say I want to be ready to accept love, instead of saying I want to make more money let’s say I want to have more abundance in my life, instead of saying I want to be happy, let’s say I want to be kinder to myself.

New years resolutions are often the window dressing for our real feelings about what’s going on in our lives. It’s easy to say I want more money but if you really want your resolution to work I think you need to go deeper. At least that’s what I’m going to try in 2014. Will it work? I have no Idea but one of the things that I learned in 2013 is that I need to go much deeper to really find what I want.


Last year I created this vision board and by the middle of the year had achieved quite a lot. I still felt like a failure though because most of what I had done was tainted by self destruction. The book that I felt could have been much better, the relationship that I failed at, the new job that turned out to be a huge disappointment, the travel that was a result of my need to escape my problems for a while and so on. On paper my year was a success but the reality was much different because there are much more serious underlying problems in my life that no amount of “checklist box ticking” will fix.

So what will my resolutions for 2014 be?

I want to be kinder to myself.

I am my own harshest critique but I’m not just hard on myself when things go wrong I’m hard on myself all the time. I bully myself over failures, looks and my abilities so much so that it triggers my depression. Being kinder to myself this year means that I am going to treat myself with a gentler hand. I’m going to try to trust in my abilities more and stop comparing myself to others so much. Being kinder to myself also means not seeing myself as having nothing to offer and trusting that others don’t see me as having nothing to offer.  


One of the toughest things about depression is the isolation so this year I am going to pay more attention to my friends. Not just the hangers on but the friends who have really been there for me when through the last year. There are those without whom this year would have been almost impossible to bare and I’m going to make more time to stay in contact with them.

So those are my resolutions for this year,

I think they will make this year easier if I can stick too them.

What are your 2014 resolutions?

4 thoughts on “It’s resolutions time again.

  • January 6, 2014 at 11:55 am

    I don’t really have one. I’m just going to see what happens, whatever comes my way and try to do some bigger things.

  • January 6, 2014 at 4:04 pm

    In retrospect seems like 2013 was a year of a lot of learning opportunities to carry over into 2014, so not such a bad year after all. Best of wishes for an awesome 2014. May all your dreams, goals, & aspirations come true!

  • January 10, 2014 at 8:20 pm

    This year with my age ending in a zero gives also more strength to the idea that time has come for a change. One of the advantages of a birthday at the start of the year I guess.

    It’s good to have some goals, work needs to change. Done the same thing for far to long and it would be good to do that something different.

    But since I’m at the 1/2 way point in life it’s a reminder that I need to be kinder to myself and allow myself some freedoms that perhaps I never allowed myself when I was younger.

    and plus to eat better 🙂

  • January 17, 2014 at 11:54 am

    My big challenge is to remain positive. To not to take things so personal. I am who i am not someone else and want to be like i was before depression. A respected community person. I can do it.


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