Gay 101. Fetish and Kink.

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I have recently become very interested in some types of Fetish and Kink, particularly the leather and Master/sub scene. I never really thought that I would enjoy it but as I have become more sexually mature and more confident with myself my willingness to explore has increased.

The first Leather and fetish party that I attended freaked me out. It’s pretty confronting for a young Gay guy particularly when you don’t really know what to expect. A dungeon full of guys in leather gear looking you over like hungry wolves leaves you feeling very vulnerable. I never do anything in halves either, all I was wearing was a speedo and boots. Leather gear is expensive and I wasn’t about to spend hundreds of dollars on something that I wasn’t sure I was in to.

After that first party I didn’t really want to go back. I enjoyed myself but the scene wasn’t for me. That was 6 years ago and now things are very VERY different.

I used to moan about the lack of young guys who were in to it or at least willing to explore it but I have a theory why this might be. I think it takes a level of confidence and sexual maturity to open yourself up to exploring the darker side of your sex life, and that that only comes with experience and age.

As I explore my sexuality and discover new things leather has become a really big feature of my sex life. It seems that everybody enjoys it for different reasons. Some like the smell and feel of the gear, others like the way it looks. Some just like to dress up and for others it is the low attitude atmosphere that the Leather crowd seems to exude.

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For me the attraction is the sense of masculinity that the scene brings. There is nothing quite as sexy to me as a hot man, scruffy around the edges sporting a harness and a pair of jeans. The smell, the taste, the creak of the leather is a turn on. That’s where it ends for me. I don’t like chaps or the funny village people hats guys wear and I think leather clothing is a bit strange, for me it’s all about the harness. My attraction to the leather scene is based on a very specific fetish it seems.

The Master/sub play for me is a huge turn on too. My size and shape means I usually end up as the sub which suits me fine. At first I was a reluctant participant but as I have become more confident that I can handle myself and more confident saying NO when I don’t like something I’ve been able to explore more. I’ve slapped quite a few guys who didn’t get the message.

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I’m not in to water sports or any thing like that. The Kink I am in to is pretty my limited to what I just told you. You all know about my fetish for jockstraps well now you can add harnesses and Master/sub play.

The leather and kink scene is dark and sexy and dangerous. You have to maintain a clear head to negotiate it safely, drugs and unsafe sex abound. But if you are confident and strong when it comes to looking after yourself then there is the potential to open up your sex life to things you never would have dreamed of, I certainly did.

Im off to another party tonight and I hope you like my outfit in the pics above. I have to admit that the tail is one of the most erotic things I have ever worn and in public guys love to give it a flick. If you want to see it wag in Mondays post you’ll have to join the SEALED SECTION.

 

 

5 thoughts on “Gay 101. Fetish and Kink.

  • January 26, 2014 at 9:30 pm
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    Is the tail plugged in your butt? 😮

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  • January 26, 2014 at 11:48 pm
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    It is the way many gay men progress. Porn via the internet sets many young people up too early with kink. It needs to be a progressive thing, exactly as you are doing.

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  • January 27, 2014 at 3:41 am
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    Leather is not my thing, but you still look hot!

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  • January 27, 2014 at 7:15 am
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    Your journey sounds a lot like mine was. Started mid-20’s and has evolved ever since. I love to switch up the Dom/sub and do both. You look fantastic in these pics. Come to the US, Ill let you be the Dom even though Im prob bigger than you. 😉

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  • January 27, 2014 at 1:28 pm
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    Saw your post. What you really need to go along with that tail is a puppy hood.

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