Relationship goals and the Instafamous. Don’t base your relationship goals on fantasy.

If your relationship goals are based in fantasy then you are doomed to failure,

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I’ve been on the receiving end of more than a few guys saying “wow I wish I had your body, wow I wish I had your life.” My reply;

Don’t be me, be you. My life is a mess, I’m constantly worried about how I look, my self esteem is unhealthily attached to how much I go to the gym, I suck at relationships, I’m a financial dunce, I beat myself up all the time for not being perfect, I get depressed – not the “I’m sad” kind of depressed, but the “I can’t be bothered to eat this week” kind of depressed.

You are more than your Instagram account and the relationship you deserve will come from real genuine connection. These couples just might have amazing relationships behind all the marketing but the goals we should we should be aspiring to like compassion, honesty, unconditional love, and empathy don’t come out of the box. They come after years of self examination and being honest with yourself. They come from having your heart broken and put back together by someone who cares about you more than they care about their next selfie;

and they take a lifetime to figure out.

Don’t be suckered in to comparing your life to people on social media because that’s exactly the point. Your supposed to look at them and say wow I want their life. You’re supposed to buy the clothes they wear and the eat the food they eat, go on holidays where they go and use the face cream they use because thats how they make their cash, thats what being an influencer is.

2 thoughts on “Relationship goals and the Instafamous. Don’t base your relationship goals on fantasy.

  • December 13, 2018 at 6:59 pm
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    So true. No ones life is perfect. Thank fuck, would be a boring world. its the idiosyncrasies of all of us that make us unique. And lovable.

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  • December 14, 2018 at 12:20 pm
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    Shannon well said. Far to many guys are looking for that relationship based on others and their marketed relationship. Be you for you, no one is perfect but I may say or comment on a post “Perfect butt” or “perfect body” but then I see another one and comment the same its just what I like in my opinion. I love the male body as an art form and a good photo deserves a like or a comment. Shannon knows I will always comment on his posts because in my opinion he has a great body even though at times he will doubt it. Im 58 and theres no way I can turn back the clock to look like half of the guys I see so I just admire them and give encouragement where its due. Ill say it again “Just be you, for you” not some marketing product. love and Peace babe XXX

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