Does it really get better? Five years later.

Five years ago I made video as part of the It Gets Better campaign and I thought now would be a good time to revisit it to see if things really do get better and if I still believe in that advice I gave all those years ago.

4 thoughts on “Does it really get better? Five years later.

  • June 12, 2015 at 4:18 pm


    I’ve watched you grow up and for me, things you said kept me coming back for more, even where I am in my life, we need touchstones, you are one of mine. I can tell you that five years ago, I was just into my 40’s and little by slowly, a new wisdom began to set in. Wait, if your mid twenties is “this good” right now, consider where you will be when you hit 40. Do gay men in their forties have life? Are we relevant? Yes we are. I’ve been sober now almost 14 years, when my journey to grow up began, it has been one hell of a ride.

    Like you, I’ve grown up, my twenties were a washout and even into my mid thirties was a bust, but at age 34, as a gay man, I decided that I had to grow up, something I avoided like the plague. I had delusions of being a beach bod sex kitten in my thirties that just was not going to fly anymore. I couldn’t drink enough alcohol to make it work.

    AIDS and Alcoholism kept me in a box for so long.

    Now I lived to see my forties and I am closing in on fifty in a couple of years, I survived, I did not die, and certainly, hands down, life got better. My life and my husbands life have changed so much, in just the last year.

    Would I go back? I would go back in time? Yes, for years 26 and 27, because it was the worst of times and it was the best of times. But I’d scrap the rest.

    Shannon, I believed in you all those years ago, and I still believe in you. I’m so proud of you. I imagine that I won’t be the first person to tell you that. It Does Get Better … Love, Peace and Abundance Shannon.

    Goodnight from Montreal.
    Jeremy A.

  • June 12, 2015 at 11:28 pm

    So happy for you on your journey of it keeps getting better & your contagious optimism for a “it keeps getting better” future!

  • June 13, 2015 at 3:51 am

    I am SOooo happy for you. I love seeing you do these adventures, I envy you. I have set down deep roots and am a bit older then you so I can’t move around as much but you really inspire me. : )

  • June 15, 2015 at 9:52 am

    Well Shannon, 5 years sounds like an eternity but its not really is it. We all look back and review what we were as to what or who we are now and draw some conclusions out of that review. I think that I first started following your blog some maybe 7yrs ago and you helped me through my darkest period about 5 yrs ago when I turned 50 and that was a struggle for me i just didn’t want to accept that I was half a century old and had a bit of a crisis which you know about and I wont go into it here. To say that it gets better is an understatement everyday is better in some way and yes we all have our days weeks of darkness but I have learnt from you that positive thinking and being realistic is the way to go forward.

    You are one inspirational guy and I hope to think that I am one of those friends you mentioned. Your blog brings me back to earth when I am not feeling the best. I have no idea where or what I will be doing in 5 years but i know retirement is not far away. I have seen your struggles from the beginning through to where you are now and you should be applauded for your tenacity.

    You have a wicked sense of humor that is contagious to say the least. The best thing I can say to you right now is just keep on doing what your doing because it works and is working for you.

    All the very best to you with Peace in abundance and much love.

    Sydney Australia


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