Are your dreams just a shopping list?


If I was to ask the question what is your dream? How many people you know would give answers like,

I want to own a big house, I want to own a Ferrari, I want to buy a boat and so on?

How would you answer?

It seems to me that many people I know have dreams that resemble a shopping list rather than a happy life. The problem with building dreams around the things you want to own is that these things never last, they rot, break, wear out or go out of fashion. If you pinned measuring the success of your dream on owning those possessions then you are going to be left feeling unfullfilled when they are gone.

Instead of focussing on the possessions think a little deeper about what they represent. Owning a home might actually be about having stability in your life, getting that car might really be about gaining a sense of independence and freedom. It will be different for everybody and only you can really discover what things like cars and houses really represent.

One day I would like to own a home, but it’s not the physical bricks and mortar that are the dream. The real dream is sense of stability and a sense of security and that there will always be somewhere that I belong in the world. When that becomes the dream rather than the possession you suddenly realise that there are a multitude of ways to achieve it.

Whenever I chase a dream that focusses on owning something I’m never really satisfied, there is always something new that I want. It leaves me feeling unfulfilled because the desire for the stuff in my life always fades away once I own it.

The dreams that I have found the most fulfilling in my life have all been the ones about enriching my mind, body and spirit, they are the ones which will bring me happiness and fulfilment. Things like helping people and making a difference, travelling and taking pictures. The leave me feeling content because even when my life changes I carry the experiences with me, they are part of who I am.

Seek the dreams in life that will enrich your spirit. Possessions come and go but real contentment comes from within.