Letters to my 16 yo self. You don’t have to be perfect, just better than you were last time.


There are things that we all want to change about ourselves but what holds us back?

One of the things that used to trigger feelings of depression and inadequacy in myself was when I identified something about myself or my life that I wasn’t able to fix no matter how hard I tried.

I’d beat myself up all the time, “I know I’m better than this.”

I think we all do it. We set standards of perfection for ourselves that only cause us heartache and pain when we fail to reach them, then we often make it worse by refusing to forgive ourselves.

In this world full of slogans and sound bites I think we have forgotten that to err is human. We are surrounded by champion talk and cheap motivation that only accepts total success, but life isn’t as black and white as Just Do It. None of us are perfect and few of us will achieve perfection in our lifetimes.

Perfection is an ever changing, peer driven, marketing inspired, social construct designed to make you feel shitty about yourself so you buy into more cheap champion sneakers, personal trainers, life coaches, dating agencies, boner pills and all manner of rubbish so you can be the perfect Lover, worker, have the perfect body blah blah blah…

Don’t focus on perfection, focus on being better each time you try. Realise that you will fail a lot and you will make mistakes a lot, and that’s okay. If you get a little bit better and try a little bit harder each time then you will be well on your way to success. Beating yourself up over not reaching something which is unattainable in the first place is a waste of energy and only serves to demotivate and depress you.

You don’t have to be perfect, just be a little bit better each time you try and success will be your journey not the destination.