There is life beyond being Gay.

Like all things what you see is only the tip of the iceberg.

The term “gay lifestyle” often comes up in conversations with people I know. I have had boyfriends, friends and family who have all said, oh your life is so Gay. The haters also use it to generalize our community.

I don’t really think about it that much, I mean if I am Gay then my life is gay isn’t it?

Some of my mates say “but I don’t really do gay things”. What they mean is I don’t go to clubs, go on Gay cruises, go to Mardi Gras, have a Grindr profile, etc. There is no doubt that there is a huge proportion of the Gay community that lives outside of the scene.

What is my point?

Like I said, what you see is the tip of the iceberg. When you come out it is easy to let “GAY” be your entire life. It’s all about clubs, skinny jeans, hair product and Gaga. I most certainly was like that (bouncing down the street in my sisters jeans in a superman top 3 sizes too small) and in some ways I still am, but I have found that it is what I do with my life and the passions that I pursue that makes me who I am, not the community or the clubs that I visit.

It is ironic but the example of Mardi Gras is a good one. The diversity of the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras serves to remind us that there are people all around the world having fulfilling meaningful careers and experiences as part of mainstream organizations. We are soldiers, teachers, police, firemen, lifesavers, and so much more.

This post is not about brow beating those of you who love going out and immersing yourself in Gay friendly events. I certainly love it myself.

It is about letting those of you out there who are just coming out or who are still young and worried about how the world will accept you, that life goes far beyond your sexuality and that you can do anything you want if you have courage and determination.

You have every opportunity to follow your dreams. Never let anyone make you feel like you can’t do something…

Contrary to what you might hear on Fox we’re not all drag queens and .