Telling each other to ignore the bullies isn’t helpful.

April 8, 2015

I have grown to dislike it, hate it even when people say to others regarding bullies, “oh just ignore them”. I remember being told “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”, but words do hurt and they can leave scars that run deep and last a lifetime. It was a lazy response from people who were either unwilling or ill-equipped to genuinely help. Telling…


Happy Valentines Day and 10 reasons why it’s ok to be single.

February 14, 2015

> For those of us spending this Valentines day as single men here’s and golden oldie. There is nothing wrong with being single, society sometimes treats us like we are broken or incomplete, It’s simply not true.   Blog this! Recommend on Facebook Share via MySpace share via Reddit Tumblr it Tweet about it Subscribe to the comments on this post


Blonde or Brunette- Why it’s about more than just fashion.

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January 15, 2015

The decision to leave my hair it’s natural colour is about who I am rather than just a fashion choice. I have for a very long time tried to make myself look as Caucasian as possible because my experience of coming out and of many parts of the Gay community both here and abroad is that my Asian heritage is something that is undesirable. Blog this! Recommend on Facebook Share…


Gay 101. Satisfaction not Guaranteed.

January 5, 2015

Okay I’ll say it straight up… Lately I have been finding sex very unsatisfying. Don’t get me wrong I’ve been having a lot of fun and I have been having a lot of sex, probably too much and that could be part of the problem. The less satisfied I feel the more I seek out. The lack of satisfaction is there whether I cum or not, it’s got nothing to…


Andrew Solomon: Depression, the secret we share.

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November 24, 2014

This beautiful talk about depression by Andrew Solomon expresses so much of my own experience and I highly recommend that you listen to it. Blog this! Recommend on Facebook Share via MySpace share via Reddit Tumblr it Tweet about it Subscribe to the comments on this post


Gay 101. Does aging scare me?

May 10, 2014

You are beginning to get lines on your forehead and around your nose, does aging scare you? Me I am terrified! I used to worry all the time about aging. Everyone thinks about aging and what that means for them but Gay men seem especially sensitive to it. Aging is something in the Gay community that is hard to talk about. Even when I tried to contact the Vintage Men…


Your words touch.

April 9, 2014

When you speak you are reaching out and touching the person you are speaking too. Your voice travels across the space between you. It touches their skin and their ear drums. It shakes the hairs on their neck and moves their hearts. More than this words can make or break us in the most cruel ways. We forget that we are all connected all the time. It may seem like…


Gay 101. An introverts guide to dating.

March 11, 2014

Believe it or not when I first came out I was a bit of an introvert. It wasn’t until I started to make a few friends and started taking selifes that I really was able to discover who I am and start to come out of my shell. Until that happened I struggled with dating, making friends and meeting new people. I simply found it very scary talking to strangers…


Gay 101. The art of dirty talking.

January 7, 2014

Talking dirty to your man can have sexy or disastrous results depending on how you do it and the situation. Dirty talk in and out of the bedroom can be the key to picking up, spicing up and sexing up your love life. A little bit of dirty talk in your tricks ear can secure a cab ride for two back to your place or add some twinkle to your…


Arion Adventure. Meet the Skipper.

October 16, 2013

You all know that I’ve been sailing around on the Arion but what I haven’t told you yet is who I’ve been sailing with. Well fellow Space Time Travellers, meet the Arions Skipper of seventeen years, Graham. I came aboard the Arion to escape the negativity that was deepening my depression and my time here has revealed an experience that was totally unexpected. You may recall earlier in the year…