It’s okay to ask for help.

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February 1, 2016

As you know a while ago I began writing about depression and how I am dealing with it and the strategies that I have been using to help myself when I begin feeling depressed. If you haven’t yet then you can find some of the articles under the category one in four. In many ways writing about it here and sharing my experiences is a cathartic experience. It helps to…


Heroes of the week.

January 13, 2016

These guys stripped of last year for World Aids Day to tackle the stigma attached to people living with HIV aids. 15 Men from across the UK stripped of for a Gay Mens Health charity GMFA to help raise awareness before December 1st last year. You can read the full article by clicking here.       Blog this! Recommend on Facebook Share via MySpace share via Reddit Tumblr it…


Relationship goals and the Instafamous. The dangers of basing your relationship goals on fantasy.

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December 13, 2015

If your relationship goals are based in fantasy then you are doomed to failure,   If your relationship goals are to have a hot boyfriend who takes cute selfies with you then you’re being foolish. I’m sorry if it sounds harsh but I really feel like some people need a wake up call on this. Articles like this one perpetuate the myth that if you’re not hot, don’t have a hot boyfriend…


Surviving social media. Relearning the art of conversation.

November 30, 2015

I once lived in a share house with 5 others and one day I noticed that all six of us were home speaking on iMessage from our bedrooms. Tech is great for bringing people together from the other side of the world but when you won’t leave your own room to have a face to face conversation then it’s all gone just a little bit too far. How many of you rush home…


GAY 101. Slut shaming in the Gay community

November 10, 2015

Lately it seems like slut shaming in the Gay community has become a sport. Some of us have been making real waves giving the more promiscuous of us a hard time. For gay men sex is a fundamental part of our identity and who we are. For many of us sex is as much about having fun and enjoying our bodies as it is about intimacy. When I was struggling with my…


Cootie Catcher.

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May 1, 2015

You may remember Lucas who helped me out with a cheeky Youtube video review of the Fleshlight and a Speedo. Lucas has always been a great supporter of me and of the blog and now he needs our help to support his latest show. “It’s about spreading sex-positivity, and encouraging audiences to protect, respect, and embrace their bodies, and step-by-step, destigmatize those who may have experienced sexually transmissible infections at…


Telling each other to ignore the bullies isn’t helpful.

April 8, 2015

I have grown to dislike it, hate it even when people say to others regarding bullies, “oh just ignore them”. I remember being told “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”, but words do hurt and they can leave scars that run deep and last a lifetime. It was a lazy response from people who were either unwilling or ill-equipped to genuinely help. Telling…


Gay 101. The value of experiences over things.

April 6, 2015

Living a life with very few material possessions has taught me to value experiences more than things. The money I have is limited so I have always preferred to spend my time and my money doing things that I thought would enrich my life. I don’t have a house full of stuff, I have only enough clothes to get by in summer and winter, I don’t buy labels I own…


Gay 101. Dealing with the haters.

March 24, 2015

  I am often asked questions and receive emails from young people asking about how to deal with bullies or people who are making life hard for them. Some have been picked on, others feel that they cannot be themselves because of what other people say about them. Gay, lesbian, straight, bi, transgender, inter-sex or whatever, we are all subject to bullying by others at some point in our lives….