Gay 101. Dealing with the haters.

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March 24, 2015

  I am often asked questions and receive emails from young people asking about how to deal with bullies or people who are making life hard for them. Some have been picked on, others feel that they cannot be themselves because of what other people say about them. Gay, lesbian, straight, bi, transgender, inter-sex or whatever, we are all subject to bullying by others at some point in our lives….

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GAY 101. What’s the deal with spanking?

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March 21, 2015

What’s the deal with spanking? Not the good kind of spanking… you know spanking the monkey, but the kind of spanking that hurts? Why do I keep getting requests from guys who want to spank me? I once knew a guy who genuinely got off on spanking guys and a guy who used to ask me to spank him so hard I had to literally take a run up before…

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Reader question. What advice would you give to teens thinking of coming out ?

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February 13, 2015

Coming out is a difficult time. It’s full of fear and uncertainty about how friends and family will react. Everyones coming out experience is unique and it’s a very personal choice, but there are a few things I would suggest to help make it easier and safer. Firstly you need a support network. You need someone on your side. I would suggest that you start with a close friend, relative or even…

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The problem with the way we think about being “fit”.

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February 5, 2015

The way our culture thinks about being fit and going to the gym is more to do with vanity and looking good than it is to do with our health. When people send me messages they say, “you look so hot, what’s your gym routine?,” not “oh you look so healthy.” The whole aesthetics culture is part of the reason why people look at going to the gym and say…

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Melbourne Pride march 2015 pt1.

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February 1, 2015

  Today was the annual Melbourne Pride march but this year was a little bit special. This year we celebrated 20 years of Pride with what felt like one of the biggest parades yet. The weather was a little bit ominous but luckily it stayed warm and the rain held off as we marched through St Kilda resplendent in out speedos, kilts and all manner of outfits. I really do…

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Woohoo for Midsummer.

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January 19, 2015

EEEkkk. I wrote this and forgot to publish it. That’s what happens when I get distracted by new underwear. The Midsummer festival here in Melbourne has begun. It’s one of the largest GLBT festivals down under and rivals Sydney’s Mardi Gras for cultural and Arts activities. This year as always the festival kicked off with the Carnival day in the park and Melbourne turned on another beautiful summers day for it….

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Gay 101. Satisfaction not Guaranteed.

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January 5, 2015

Okay I’ll say it straight up… Lately I have been finding sex very unsatisfying. Don’t get me wrong I’ve been having a lot of fun and I have been having a lot of sex, probably too much and that could be part of the problem. The less satisfied I feel the more I seek out. The lack of satisfaction is there whether I cum or not, it’s got nothing to…

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Gay 101. What if 15 minutes of insane courage is all it takes…

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November 29, 2014

What if 15 minutes of insane courage is all it takes to have the thing you really want. We have all heard the saying but how many of us pay it any more attention or thought than we would to one of those motivation posters you see in waiting rooms. It’s an easy sentiment to have but how do we know when that courage is needed? Where is the crystal…

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Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. It’s not funny to be ignorant.

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September 21, 2014

Despite what Youtube or Instagram might make you think, it’s not funny, cool or even interesting to be willfully ignorant. Basically don’t be a jerk to people whose struggles you don’t know. What I mean is the kind of joking around you do when you don’t know much about a thing but pretend that you do. I’m talking about he “PFT, whatevs” attitude that so many people have when they…

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