Melbourne Pride march 2015 pt1.

February 1, 2015

  Today was the annual Melbourne Pride march but this year was a little bit special. This year we celebrated 20 years of Pride with what felt like one of the biggest parades yet. The weather was a little bit ominous but luckily it stayed warm and the rain held off as we marched through St Kilda resplendent in out speedos, kilts and all manner of outfits. I really do…


Woohoo for Midsummer.

January 19, 2015

EEEkkk. I wrote this and forgot to publish it. That’s what happens when I get distracted by new underwear. The Midsummer festival here in Melbourne has begun. It’s one of the largest GLBT festivals down under and rivals Sydney’s Mardi Gras for cultural and Arts activities. This year as always the festival kicked off with the Carnival day in the park and Melbourne turned on another beautiful summers day for it….


Gay 101. Satisfaction not Guaranteed.

January 5, 2015

Okay I’ll say it straight up… Lately I have been finding sex very unsatisfying. Don’t get me wrong I’ve been having a lot of fun and I have been having a lot of sex, probably too much and that could be part of the problem. The less satisfied I feel the more I seek out. The lack of satisfaction is there whether I cum or not, it’s got nothing to…


Gay 101. What if 15 minutes of insane courage is all it takes…

November 29, 2014

What if 15 minutes of insane courage is all it takes to have the thing you really want. We have all heard the saying but how many of us pay it any more attention or thought than we would to one of those motivation posters you see in waiting rooms. It’s an easy sentiment to have but how do we know when that courage is needed? Where is the crystal…


Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. It’s not funny to be ignorant.

September 21, 2014

Despite what Youtube or Instagram might make you think, it’s not funny, cool or even interesting to be willfully ignorant. Basically don’t be a jerk to people whose struggles you don’t know. What I mean is the kind of joking around you do when you don’t know much about a thing but pretend that you do. I’m talking about he “PFT, whatevs” attitude that so many people have when they…


Gay 101. Can non Versatile relationships work? What happens when you are both tops or bottoms.

September 17, 2014

A blog reader wrote to me some time ago and asked me what happens when both guys in a relationship are Tops or bottoms? Can this kind of relationship work? Sex is an important part of a relationship but it is not the only thing. My first relationship I was almost exclusively the bottom. I considered myself a bottom and even after that relationship ended I dated almost exclusively guys…


Gay 101. Can opposites really attract?

September 9, 2014

When I was a brand new skinny Twink,  all shiny and bouncy I quickly discovered that I was attracted to fit muscular Jocks. Okay nothing new there you may say, but I also learned that as a general rule the guys I was attracted too were mostly only attracted to guys like themselves. I felt invisible to anyone over six foot with pecs and abs and I largely still do….


Gay 101. To tattoo or not to tattoo?

August 21, 2014

There have been a few times lately when I have considered getting a tattoo. Each time the decision has been ‘no’ but with many of the fashionable Gays sporting body art nowadays it’s hard not to feel like I am a step behind. You only need to jump online or head to a club to see that expressing individuality by decorating our bodies is fashionable at the moment but tattoos are…


>Gay 101. Trimming, shaving, and maintaining your, err.. bits

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August 15, 2014

  There would be very few of us out there who had not contemplated some kind of personal grooming. The convention for trimming your man hair varies according to personal taste. Some guys prefer manly men with stubble and hairy bods. Some like their man to be trimmed and others like them completely shaved. For those of you thinking about doing some manscaping here are a few useful tips. Shower…


Gay 101. Finding the balance between work and play.

August 7, 2014

I’ve written about having a good work, life balance before but never before I have been struggling with it so badly myself. My work life balance over the past few months has been very VERY unbalanced and over the last two weeks I’ve been looking at the reasons why. I’ve come up with the following; 1 – New focus and new goals. For a long time I have been working…


Gay 101. Rediscovering your motivation.

June 17, 2014

The great Ann Landers’ once responded to a middle aged reader who wanted to train to become a medical doctor who said “This will take me ten years to complete and I’ll be so old!”. She said “How old will you be in ten years if you DON’T train to become a medical doctor?”. Motivation is something that can only come from within. People can inspire you but only you…