Six Myths about HIV testing.

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November 28, 2014

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It can’t have escaped your attention that this week is National HIV Testing Week.
All week, organisations across the country have been running activities and events to encourage gay and bi men to test for HIV, and to raise awareness of the importance of regular testing. So have you tested yet? And if not, why not?
Many of us find…


Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. It’s not funny to be ignorant.

September 21, 2014

Despite what Youtube or Instagram might make you think, it’s not funny, cool or even interesting to be willfully ignorant. Basically don’t be a jerk to people whose struggles you don’t know.
What I mean is the kind of joking around you do when you don’t know much about a thing but pretend that you do. I’m talking about he “PFT, whatevs” attitude that so many people have when they encounter…


Gay 101. Can non Versatile relationships work? What happens when you are both tops or bottoms.

September 17, 2014

A blog reader wrote to me some time ago and asked me what happens when both guys in a relationship are Tops or bottoms? Can this kind of relationship work?
Sex is an important part of a relationship but it is not the only thing.
My first relationship I was almost exclusively the bottom. I considered myself a bottom and even after that relationship ended I dated almost exclusively guys who were…


Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. So you hate your job, news flash kiddo, money helps.

September 10, 2014

Continuing on from my first installment of wake up calls I wish I could give my 16 yo old self todays post looks at working or the lack of it.
Dear 16yo Me,
So you hate your job… deal with it. Pay your dues. It’s hard to follow your dreams without a paycheck.
It occurs to me that this doesn’t only apply to my 16 year old self but also to my 18yo…


Gay 101. Can opposites really attract?

September 9, 2014

When I was a brand new skinny Twink,  all shiny and bouncy I quickly discovered that I was attracted to fit muscular Jocks. Okay nothing new there you may say, but I also learned that as a general rule the guys I was attracted too were mostly only attracted to guys like themselves. I felt invisible to anyone over six foot with pecs and abs and I largely still do….


Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. There are no participation awards.

September 6, 2014

There are no participation awards.
If I could go back in time knowing what I know now and tell my 16 yo self the most important things I have learned about the real world, what would they be? What nuggets of wisdom or eye opening morsels of knowledge could I share with myself. To be honest if I could go back and give myself a real world wake up call I…


Gay 101. To tattoo or not to tattoo?

August 21, 2014

There have been a few times lately when I have considered getting a tattoo. Each time the decision has been ‘no’ but with many of the fashionable Gays sporting body art nowadays it’s hard not to feel like I am a step behind.
You only need to jump online or head to a club to see that expressing individuality by decorating our bodies is fashionable at the moment but tattoos are permanent…


Ian Thorpe is Gay, who cares.

July 15, 2014

Ian Thorpe is Gay, who cares.
Ian Thorpe finally came out last week after years of speculation about his sexuality. The response has been largely positive with the exception of a few trolls. My own response was “meh, it’s old news now who cares”. Years of  “is Thorpie Gay?” fatigue had resulted in me not caring very much one way or another, his business was his own and nobody had the…


The day I fell in love with Mama Cass.

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March 26, 2014

When I was coming out I was soaking up every bit of Gay that I could find, trying to make sense of myself and where my place in the world was. I was searching for any thing or any one I could relate to. Beautiful thing was one of the first coming out films I saw, recommended to me by a friend. I fell in love with Mama Cass, Make…


Gay 101. What’s Mum thinking?

March 25, 2014

A friend of mine has come out and his Mum is having trouble dealing with it. He is not alone. There are lots of you out there dealing with coming out and parents reactions. For those of you who have come out and who are thinking about coming out here are a few insights in to what your Mum might be thinking.
I couldn’t possibly guess at what every parent out…