It’s just a preference I’m not racist…

June 24, 2015

What I’m about to say isn’t going to win me new friends and is probably going to upset a few people, but if your afraid of having your thinking challenged then your going to be scared all your life. I was trolling Grindr late last night and I came across another Gay boy saying “No Asians, I’m not racist it’s just a preference” and it made me think about what a preference…


Does it really get better? Five years later.

June 12, 2015

Five years ago I made video as part of the It Gets Better campaign and I thought now would be a good time to revisit it to see if things really do get better and if I still believe in that advice I gave all those years ago. Blog this! Recommend on Facebook Share via MySpace share via Reddit Tumblr it Tweet about it Subscribe to the comments on this…


Ten ways to turn around a bad day. Part 2.

May 3, 2015

Continuing on my post about how to turn around a bad day in to a good one. Here are the last five little tips I have learned to use. I hope you find them useful on your own bad days. 6. Get some exercise. Fresh air in the lungs and the pumping of my heart always improve my mood. Healthy body healthy mind. When I’m having a really bad day…


Telling each other to ignore the bullies isn’t helpful.

April 8, 2015

I have grown to dislike it, hate it even when people say to others regarding bullies, “oh just ignore them”. I remember being told “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”, but words do hurt and they can leave scars that run deep and last a lifetime. It was a lazy response from people who were either unwilling or ill-equipped to genuinely help. Telling…


Gay 101. Dealing with the haters.

March 24, 2015

  I am often asked questions and receive emails from young people asking about how to deal with bullies or people who are making life hard for them. Some have been picked on, others feel that they cannot be themselves because of what other people say about them. Gay, lesbian, straight, bi, transgender, inter-sex or whatever, we are all subject to bullying by others at some point in our lives….


Reader question. What scared you the most about coming out?

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February 17, 2015

Reader question. What scared you the most about coming out? When I came out of the closet and told my parents I was Gay the thing that scared me the most was not knowing how they would react. I honestly didn’t know if they would be angry or not. My parents and I had always had a pretty good relationship up to that point but even though they had mostly…


Reader question. What advice would you give to teens thinking of coming out ?

February 13, 2015

Coming out is a difficult time. It’s full of fear and uncertainty about how friends and family will react. Everyones coming out experience is unique and it’s a very personal choice, but there are a few things I would suggest to help make it easier and safer. Firstly you need a support network. You need someone on your side. I would suggest that you start with a close friend, relative or even…


Ask me.

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February 12, 2015 Hey everyone you may have noticed a new “ask me anything box” in the side bar. You can now send me questions about anything you like and I will try to answer them as best I can. In the past readers have used the box to ask questions about all kinds of subjects from coming out advice to workout advice or just to suggest topics for posts. You can…


Melbourne Pride march 2015 pt1.

February 1, 2015

  Today was the annual Melbourne Pride march but this year was a little bit special. This year we celebrated 20 years of Pride with what felt like one of the biggest parades yet. The weather was a little bit ominous but luckily it stayed warm and the rain held off as we marched through St Kilda resplendent in out speedos, kilts and all manner of outfits. I really do…


Blonde or Brunette- Why it’s about more than just fashion.

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January 15, 2015

The decision to leave my hair it’s natural colour is about who I am rather than just a fashion choice. I have for a very long time tried to make myself look as Caucasian as possible because my experience of coming out and of many parts of the Gay community both here and abroad is that my Asian heritage is something that is undesirable. Blog this! Recommend on Facebook Share…