Reader question. What advice would you give to teens thinking of coming out ?

February 13, 2015

Coming out is a difficult time. It’s full of fear and uncertainty about how friends and family will react. Everyones coming out experience is unique and it’s a very personal choice, but there are a few things I would suggest to help make it easier and safer. Firstly you need a support network. You need someone on your side. I would suggest that you start with a close friend, relative or even…


Ask me.

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February 12, 2015 Hey everyone you may have noticed a new “ask me anything box” in the side bar. You can now send me questions about anything you like and I will try to answer them as best I can. In the past readers have used the box to ask questions about all kinds of subjects from coming out advice to workout advice or just to suggest topics for posts. You can…


Gay 101. Can non Versatile relationships work? What happens when you are both tops or bottoms.

September 17, 2014

A blog reader wrote to me some time ago and asked me what happens when both guys in a relationship are Tops or bottoms? Can this kind of relationship work? Sex is an important part of a relationship but it is not the only thing. My first relationship I was almost exclusively the bottom. I considered myself a bottom and even after that relationship ended I dated almost exclusively guys…


Gay 101. Does aging scare me?

May 10, 2014

You are beginning to get lines on your forehead and around your nose, does aging scare you? Me I am terrified! I used to worry all the time about aging. Everyone thinks about aging and what that means for them but Gay men seem especially sensitive to it. Aging is something in the Gay community that is hard to talk about. Even when I tried to contact the Vintage Men…


Gay 101. What’s Mum thinking?

March 25, 2014

A friend of mine has come out and his Mum is having trouble dealing with it. He is not alone. There are lots of you out there dealing with coming out and parents reactions. For those of you who have come out and who are thinking about coming out here are a few insights in to what your Mum might be thinking. I couldn’t possibly guess at what every parent…


>I am confused as to whether I am gay? I dont know how to tell.

February 14, 2014

  I can’t tell you how to know if you are gay. It’s something you need to figure out for yourself. Sexuality is fluid and it takes time to get to know who we are. I thought I was bisexual for a long time before I came out. I have met guys who have been with guys and then decided they like girls. I have older friends who have children…


Gay 101. The Darkroom survival guide.

January 28, 2014

Darkrooms or back-rooms are cruising mazes that are found in some venues whose main purpose is to provide party goers with a place to have sex. They can be very hot if you have an exhibitionist streak or enjoy group play but they can also be very dangerous especially when drugs and alcohol are involved. Here are a couple of tips I can give you for staying safe in darkrooms…


Video. I respond to your questions and have a cup of tea.

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December 6, 2013

It’s been a while since my last Q & A and I want to say thanks to everyone who emailed and sent in questions. I am sorry if I missed your question this time but I have saved some for their own blog posts so don’t worry I will get to answering them. I should mention that one of the questions is about gay marriage in Australia. Currently gay couples…


Gay 101. Getting over your straight crush.

September 15, 2013

I’m taking a break from writing about the Arion to answer a question that I was asked a while ago on Tumblr. A blog reader wanted to know how they should get over a straight guy that they have feelings for. Unrequited love isn’t easy no matter what combination of sexualities are involved. It’s never easy to get over love but in this case there is a question of mutual…


Gay 101. Use the inches you’ve got.

August 8, 2013

Stop worrying about dick size and start paying attention to what you’re doing. After the weekends shannonigans and naked card games I was thinking about hang ups and penis size. It was clear that as the 12 of us were standing naked around the table there was at least a little bit of sizing up going on. At first everybody was quite shy but then as people began to realise…


Ask the Aussie

July 24, 2013

Todays blog article is to let you all know about a new series of articles called “Ask the Aussie”.  If there is anything you would like to know about Australia, me or general things in general then now is your chance. I’ll be putting my responses in to a video post and answering them personally. Want to know what I wear to bed? Want to know how many Koalas it…