Gay 101. The bad day survival guide.

April 19, 2016

We all have rotten days. But how do we survive them? How you react when things don’t quite go to plan or when they just go plain wrong is important because not only could you be blinded to other opportunities but you could also be causing yourself needless stress and heart ache. There is no doubt that some things just can’t be smiled away or brushed of easily but learning not…


Reader question. You don’t believe in God, is it because you are Gay?

June 30, 2015

I guess the way to answer this question is that it’s not that I don’t believe in God, it’s that I think it’s extremely unlikely given the evidence. It has nothing to do with my sexuality. In Primary School I remember going to bible classes and never really seeing it as anything more than fairy tales. I just never bought it, and believe me there were plenty of adults around…


Kinky questions… Go!

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June 29, 2015

Kinky Questions – go! 1:Kitchen Counter, Couch, or on top of the dryer? All of them one after the other. 2:Your last sexual encounter: Good or Bad and why: AMAZING, stamina and technique all together. 3:A fictional person that you think would be good in bed: The Hulk… HULK POUND! 4:Something that never fails to make you horny: A great arse. 5:Where is one place you would never have sex:…


There’s only one workout you need!

June 25, 2015

What you need is determination, persistence, commitment and motivation. Getting the right kind of advice is important if you are going to get the most out of your workouts but if your waiting around for that magic workout tip or routine to motivate you to hit the gym then you’re going to be waiting for a very long time. Without these things no amount of workout advice is going to get…


Reader question. What advice would you give to teens thinking of coming out ?

February 13, 2015

Coming out is a difficult time. It’s full of fear and uncertainty about how friends and family will react. Everyones coming out experience is unique and it’s a very personal choice, but there are a few things I would suggest to help make it easier and safer. Firstly you need a support network. You need someone on your side. I would suggest that you start with a close friend, relative or even…


Ask me.

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February 12, 2015 Hey everyone you may have noticed a new “ask me anything box” in the side bar. You can now send me questions about anything you like and I will try to answer them as best I can. In the past readers have used the box to ask questions about all kinds of subjects from coming out advice to workout advice or just to suggest topics for posts. You can…


Gay 101. Can non Versatile relationships work? What happens when you are both tops or bottoms.

September 17, 2014

A blog reader wrote to me some time ago and asked me what happens when both guys in a relationship are Tops or bottoms? Can this kind of relationship work? Sex is an important part of a relationship but it is not the only thing. My first relationship I was almost exclusively the bottom. I considered myself a bottom and even after that relationship ended I dated almost exclusively guys…


Gay 101. Does aging scare me?

May 10, 2014

You are beginning to get lines on your forehead and around your nose, does aging scare you? Me I am terrified! I used to worry all the time about aging. Everyone thinks about aging and what that means for them but Gay men seem especially sensitive to it. Aging is something in the Gay community that is hard to talk about. Even when I tried to contact the Vintage Men…


Gay 101. What’s Mum thinking?

March 25, 2014

A friend of mine has come out and his Mum is having trouble dealing with it. He is not alone. There are lots of you out there dealing with coming out and parents reactions. For those of you who have come out and who are thinking about coming out here are a few insights in to what your Mum might be thinking. I couldn’t possibly guess at what every parent…


>I am confused as to whether I am gay? I dont know how to tell.

February 14, 2014

  I can’t tell you how to know if you are gay. It’s something you need to figure out for yourself. Sexuality is fluid and it takes time to get to know who we are. I thought I was bisexual for a long time before I came out. I have met guys who have been with guys and then decided they like girls. I have older friends who have children…