Gay 101. The bad day survival guide.

We all have rotten days. But how do we survive them?

How you react when things don’t quite go to plan or when they just go plain wrong is important because not only could you be blinded to other opportunities but you could also be causing yourself needless stress and heart ache.

There is no doubt that some things just can’t be smiled away or brushed of easily but learning not to sweat the small stuff is good practice and good exercise for when the big things come along.

Here are a few things I have learned that might help you get through those bad days and maybe even help you make good days out of them.

Remember the silver lining.

Sometimes it’s hard to find the good in a bad situation. Seeing the silver lining is all about attitude. It’s very easy to talk ourselves in to a depression when something bad happens to us. It seems more natural, and for many of us pessimism is the default setting not optimism. Training yourself to see the good in bad situations takes time. Recognise when you are allowing yourself to focus on the negative and consciously look for something positive about the situation, as you do it more and more, the easier it will become.

Remember your successes.

When things don’t go to plan it’s easy to question your ability, ideas, planning, or knowledge. Remember your successes and all the things that went right to get you this far to begin with. Quite often our fear or sense of failure is much worse than the failure itself. Personally I try not to think of any set back as a failure because I always learn something new. If you begin to see each problem as a learning experience it won’t take long before you stop seeing them problems at all.

164491_10151508715888501_1659902200_nDo something that makes you happy.

When things don’t go to plan and you are feeling sad or depressed, I have learned a great way to break the cycle of negative thinking is to get back to the things that make you happy. When I am feeling rotten, there is nothing that cheers me up faster than going for a walk with the camera. It may seem like a frivolous suggestion but when things are going badly one of the most important things you can do is take a break. Taking time out to do something you enjoy gives you some space to clear your head and a chance to look at problems with a fresh perspective.

Call a friend.

A problem shared is a problem halved. It’s very hard to get through the tough times completely on our own. Sharing a problem with a friends or family member is a great way to get another perspective and lighten your load. Sometimes just being about to talk a problem through with somebody will help reveal a solution or help you feel better.

Accept that sometimes there will just be shit days.

Nobody gets to skip through life without pain or challenges. Some days are just going to be plain shit, and there will be nothing you can do about it. It’s ok to fall in a heap when things go wrong, it’s ok feel failure, it’s ok to have bad days. Remember that although you may not be able to control a situation how you react to a bad day is up to you. You can wallow or strut… it’s your choice.

Bad days happen to everyone. A bad day doesn’t mean a bad life.

Unless your one of these guys!