For as long as I can remember I have been single on New Years Eve and I have to admit that it can be a difficult time of year for those of us without partners. All around us couples are wearing matching christmas sweaters, sharing hugs and kisses and doing couple things. The traditional New Years Kiss at midnight can leave us stuck with Aunty Berrells moustached smooch or a drunken strangers unwelcome saliva all over our face.
New years eve is also a time for reflection and it’s around this time of year that we look back and start making resolutions for the next year. Being single happily or unhappily at this time of the year can just be a reminder of what we don’t have.
Being single at this time of year may not be the only reason to reflect. There will be things that we wanted to achieve during the year that have been sucesses and failures. Perhaps we wanted to get fitter, or loose weight or quit smoking, or find a new job. Getting down or depressed about having not done the things that we said we would do, or achive the goals we had set for ourselves can leave us feeling a little deflated at this time of the year. The risk of trying to drink those problems away on NYE with a big binge is very real.
So how do I survive the New Years revels and start the year feeling fresh and optimistic again?
– I set the mood for next year by ending this one positively.
It’s easy to focus on the negative and think “I’ll be glad when this year is over”. End the year on a positive note and think about all the good things that have happened over the past year. I think about my achievements and the goals that I did accomplish. If you honestly had a horror year or can’t think of anything good then smile and remind yourself that things are going to get better. The promise of a fresh start is a powerful one.
– I surround myself with optimism.
Family and friends will be enjoying the New Years Spirit, tap in to it. At this time of the year many people will be looking forward to the new year with excitement.
I’m a firm believer that how you start your year sets the tone for the rest of it. Drink, be merry, have a great time but start it with a smile and a clear head. Set your mind to the task of having a great year from the very beginning and hold to that feeling.
– I draw a line in the sand.
Last year is done, I reflect on it but don’t relive it. The new year is going to be amazing… YOU are going to be amazing… You stand on the edge of unknown possibility, embrace it.
– I kiss someone important to me.
A New Years kiss isn’t about picking up, it’s about sharing a moment of hope that the New Year will be better than the last one. Share it with someone important, a friend, relative or pet. Make it about hope not validation.
So there you have it. New Year revels can be a time of hope and optimism if you really want them to be. You’ve done a lot more than you think and will do even more still.
Happy new year my friends. I wish you all happiness, abundance and infinite love for 2014 and for each year after that to come.