Gay 101. Stop wishing you could do it and just do it!

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALots of people have been writing to me, leaving comments or telling that they wish they could be doing the same thing. “Wow that sounds awesome”, they say, “I wish I was doing that too”.

Everyday we wish we could do things, but why don’t we just do them?

I’m not talking about living life on a whim, that would be chaos, but I am talking about embracing life and really working towards making opportunities happen when they present themselves in our lives.

In my life this blog has made a huge difference but when something awesome has happened it has almost always required me to place some trust in a new friend or to take some kind of chance. The trick is to plan properly so you can always minimize the risk.

My first trip to the United States on my own was to work for somebody I had never met, but I took a chance and decided to take the opportunity. I didn’t jump blindly on a plane. I made sure I had a return ticket in my name, half payment in advance and confirmed contact details that I could leave with my family. The result was an awesome experience. I saw my first baseball game at Wrigley field, visited ground zero and got to meet one of my favorite porn stars. I also made a road trip from Colombus Ohio to Chicago, ended up cruising Harlem and got a free night and day in LA.

My first good photography client saw a picture I posted on the blog while I was living in Sydney and asked me to come to Melbourne to do some work. I said yes without receiving any advanced payment and it became my first real break.

Other opportunities have come and gone and I have had some disasters too. I have had to sleep with locked bedroom doors and had very stern words with dodgy photographers. But always each experience has brought me new confidence and belief in myself.

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So when a stranger offered me the chance to go sailing I knew I could handle it. I googled the boat, checked out the skippers cred and made sure that I had the means to stay and to get myself home if I needed to. Lots of people tried to talk me out of it, but now they’re the ones sitting in their lounge rooms and I’m on the deck watching the Dolphins swimming around the harbour.

There is always risk in life but if managed properly and with just a little bit of courage you can and will do amazing things.