Guest writer Peter talks about being jealous and feeling attractive.
We’ve all done it, we all look at the guy on the bus with the arms of steel, tight bubble butt and the smile to die for and thought to ourselves ‘I wish I had his body’.
I’ll admit that I do it everyday and it feels as though I go in phases. For a few days I’ll feel like I’m full of confidence and a few days later I might feel low and down, almost like my confidence has been knocked because the image that I see in the mirror isn’t the image that I wish to see.
I know from myself and most of my friends that we all feel like this sometimes, and that though everyone is different, some people like myself might feel it more. And that makes it so easy for jealousy to happen, a little too easy in fact. A daft, stupid example happened when my ex got with someone else. I didn’t have feelings for my ex any more, but I still found him more attractive than myself. When I found out he was dating someone else I got jealous straight away, until I realised that I thought I was more attractive than his current boyfriend. You might automatically say I still have feelings for my ex, but I know it is simple jealousy as I thought my ex was more attractive than me. And you know what, I still do. But I know now there is no reason to see my ex like that because of daft feelings like that. Everyone has different choices and different views.
I find it to easy to feel down and hurt as though my confidence has been knocked because I see someone who I feel is more attractive as me. I can look in the mirror and accept that I may never look how I want to, but I feel there is a difference between accepting that and truly understanding that there is always going to be someone better than yourself (in your opinion) and knowing that there is also going to be people who you don’t find attractive in your opinion. Just remember, you need to make yourself feel attractive. Whether its getting your special guy to make you feel it, take a private picture in the shower to remind yourself of what you’ve got or just simply remind yourself that there are people who find you hot. You don’t need to make yourself attractive, just feel as though you are. Because you are.