Hi Shannon, I’ve been in a relationship for a few months, but deep down inside I’m thinking that he is not the right one for me and want to find that guy. But on the other hand am I still loving my boyfriend. What is wrong with me?
Firstly there is nothing ” wrong ” with you. Finding our true love is not something that always happens quickly or easily. Many of us will have many relationships before we find the “one”.
All of us have doubts at some point. The important thing is to be sure of how you feel and to examine those feelings. Often after the glow of a new relationship starts to fade many people assume they are no longer in ” love “. Relationships however take work. They must be nurtured. It is natural to have questions that may conflict with your feelings.
Some people would say that the very fact that you are not sure is proof enough that you are not meant to be together. I do not believe this. It seems to me like a very lazy way to approach a relationship. We all have doubts, don’t be so hard on yourself. It may very well be true that this person is not for you. That’s not something to feel bad about. If you still love this person but are thinking about others then you must be honest about those feelings. Is there something you are not getting from your boyfriend that you think you might get else where? Have you communicated your needs to him? Have you spoken about your feelings? Have you nurtured your relationship? If you think that you love this person and you think that your relationship is worth fighting for then these are the things that you need to think about. Don’t get caught up in the ” fast food ” mentality. Relationships cannot be formed around the expectation of instant gratification all the time.
Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Even when you have only been together a short amount of time.
If you genuinely feel that you are no longer invested in your relationship then be honest. Remember that it is not only your feelings that are at stake here. Be honest with him. If you truly care for him then let him move on and have the potential to find another partner also.
Good luck Mr. I hope you find what you are looking for.
Happiness, abundance and infinite love to you my friend.