Since the invention of the text message Sexting has been a sexy part of our everyday conversation. In fact I’m pretty sure that the first SMS was “what are you wearing?”
But like all things there is an art to sexting that can leave your would be beau swooning or gagging.
We all know that Sexting can be fraught with danger and whether you are a grown man, politician, sports star or celebrity the temptation to send our Mr Johnson’s out for a wander around the airwaves seems to be too much. With the creation of Grindr and other “hookup” aps Sexting has climbed to a whole new level. It’s pretty hard not to have a conversation on Grindr without it turning a little bit blue.
If you’re on Grindr for a relationship then this article is not for you, but for those of you who might be tempted to get a little smutty or a little naked with your Sexts, here are a few tips and considerations.
Beware of the out of nowhere Sext.
Think about how often the first message somebody has sent you was “Lets fuck” or a picture of their pink bits. Now think about how often that has been successful. Sometimes spontaneity is hot and other times it isn’t. It all depends on how receptive the person getting the message is. If you are genuinely interested in something more that just a quick hook up, opening the conversation with “I want to eat your ass” isn’t going to make the right first impression. Alternatively if you are looking for a hook-up a casual Hi is far less creepy.
Naturally as Gay boys some of us are open to hook ups but remember… first impressions count.
It’s all about trust.
Remember Gay boys like to brag. Before you hit send on your best pick up line or fire of that self pic in the bathroom ask yourself will he keep your privates private? Or will he share your glory and a giggle with his friends? Do you care or do you think the referrals will be worth it?
Less can be more.
This applies to both pictures and words. A pic in a hot Speedo or pair of underwear can be far more of a turn on than flopping out your chop. A well written “I want to slide my hands all over you while I nibble on your ear” is much more classy than “sit on my face”, there will be plenty of time for that later.
Don’t give it all away at once.
Sadly most boys like to play games and the chase is the greatest game of all. Playing all your cards in one go runs the possibility that your beau might just lose interest. You want to be a little bit coy. Tease a bit. Give him the chance to turn up the heat and then respond in kind. Remember just like in Sex foreplay is everything and great foreplay makes the main show even more fun. If you do plan to send off some pics remember that once it’s out there it’s impossible to get back.
There are no hard and fast rules and the points above are just a guide. As with all things Sexting relies on chemistry and a little bit of restraint. Have fun with it and make sure you are Sexting responsibly. Sending suggestive texts or naked pictures of yourself to somebody who is underage will still get you in a lot of hot water even if you never meet and there is a fine line between persistence and harassment. Keep your face out of nude pictures and be selective who you send them too. Use your common sense and if in doubt don’t.