How long can we maintain the moral high ground?

Recently this video was brought to my attention and it reminded me of a similar situation that played out here in Melbourne a couple of years ago when a local bar here reserved the right to refuse entry to Female patrons.

This time it’s a popular Gay bar in West Hollywood that has made the decision to ban Hens nights (Bacholerette parties) from taking place there. The Bars owner David Cooley does not believe that the ban is discriminatory.

He says that “as I kept seeing this, it was hurtful to me being Gay, as well as my clientele, that we could not have that same type of a celebration”.

He adds that the ban is only on the celebration itself.

I leave you to make your own decision about whether or not this is right or wrong, discriminatory or not.

My Questions is how long can we maintain the moral high ground when parts of the GLBTI community feel that they need to take this kind of action. There will always be a need for safe places where GLBTI men and woman can feel secure and enjoy a night out with friends in an environment that is safe and considerate, but does that give us the right to refuse entry to certain groups? Is what is necessary right?

The argument was made a long time ago in Melbourne that when straight girls go to Gay venues they change the atmosphere of the club. Slowly the the word gets round and straight men start coming to improve their odds. The straight men create an atmosphere of tension and then the Gay patrons, the owners target clientele go elsewhere. I have seen it at work myself. A certain Sydney nightclub which as always been regarded as a gay venue is now avoided because of the straight patrons that frequent it. This club which used to be seen as a safe place is no longer seen that way. There have even been bashings in it’s toilets.

I can certainly vouch for the lack of consideration that Hens night seem to show.

I was standing in line for a club with a friend of mine when a woman who was part of a hens night pinched him on the ass. He promptly turned around and told her to fuck off. When they looked surprised at him he said “you wouldn’t allow a guy to do that to you at a straight club, so don’t come and do it here”.

She did it because she didn’t feel threatened by us as Gay men, but what she forgot was respect for where she was. This unfortunately is all too common.

But I digress,

If we give in to the “well I can’t do it there, so you can’t do it here” attitude, then how can we say that we stand for equality. How can we demand what we ourselves will not offer to others?

What is needed here is a little respect and a little understanding.

The Women need to respect that when they come to a Gay Bar that we are not to be treated like the freaks on display. Leave the “oooo lets hang out with the Gays” attitude at home. Keep your hands to yourselves and your handbags off the dancefloor.

The Gay men need to understand that the Woman are there because they don’t want to deal with Horny straight men all night. They think we are hot, they are secretly in love with most of us and whether we like it or not they deserve a safe place just as much as we do. And While their Hens nights may make us feel jealous, insulted, or uncomfortable we should be focussing on the fact all love should be celebrated everywhere, all the time.

What do you think?